June 4, 2022

“Sleep while you can.” This was the “advice” I heard most often from veteran parents. While I know they’re intentions were good, it didn’t feel all that helpful. What about after the baby is born? How do I sleep then? No matter, I put that out of my mind until our son was born. When […]

Confessions of a Former Sleep Consultant Skeptic

“Sleep while you can.”

This was the “advice” I heard most often from veteran parents. While I know they’re intentions were good, it didn’t feel all that helpful. What about after the baby is born? How do I sleep then? No matter, I put that out of my mind until our son was born.

When we finally brought our son home from the hospital after 28 days in the NICU, I understood what those well-meaning friends and family members had been talking about.

Our son evidently hated sleep. For months and months, he would refuse to take a nap. When he finally did nap, his eyes would pop open and he’d start screaming after a mere 20 minutes.

At night, he was up every 2-3 hours for basically the first year. My husband and I had no idea what to do to get this kid to sleep.

So, I started Googling.

What I found was a lot of vague advice from random websites, most of it directly contradicting eachother. After months of little to no clarity on the baby sleep front, I stumbled across a well known sleep consultant on Instagram.

I watched her stories and her highlights, and even read her blogs. I applied some of what I learned, and it was helpful, but something was still missing.

I started looking at her courses and it sounded great, but what about actually talking to a human being and getting specific advice? That will be $150.

I was pretty desperate, so I do remember bringing this up to my husband. He is the saver in our household and thought that sounded like a lot of money for a 40-minute conversation where nothing is guarenteed.

That’s the thing right? How could this person possibly fix our eight-month-old’s sleep problems with one phone call? I’m skeptical that any problem could be fixed with one phone call, outside of maybe ordering a pizza.

And so, that was it. I kept researching, my kid kept waking up, and eventually (around 14 months) I pieced together enough information that I was able to finally sleep train my son.

When I got pregnant with my daughter, I immediately purchased the newborn course from this same consultant.

At this point, I was happy to hand over my money if there was any chance that I could avoid being further traumatized by sleep deprivation.

When my daughter was born, I felt so much more prepared. It was such a relief to have this knowledge and be able to just do what I had been taught to do when it came to her sleep.

By six months she was sleeping through the night, waking for one feeding, and then back to sleep. I didn’t even know this was possible. While I didn’t end up needing any support calls, I 100% would have booked one if I did.

What changed my mind about sleep consultants?

Obviously, my experience taking that newborn course was the jumping off point. I was so amazed by my experience, that I began looking into becoming a sleep consultant. If I could help other parents avoid the pure hell that was living without sleep for a year, then sign me up.

But, I didn’t truly understand how valuable 1:1 support would be, since I had never had that experience.

Couldn’t you just learn everything you needed from a course like I had? You definitely could. But, there is nothing that compares to having someone in your back pocket, fully invested in your success, and constantly working to make the process as seamless as possible.

That’s why I love what I do. I get to step into my client’s world and help them in a way that is personalized to them.

With my son, that’s what I truly needed. Someone who understood what was happening, could tell me what to do, and then hold my hand through the process.

You can find anything you’re looking for on the internet, but nothing replaces the value of an expert in your corner.

I realize I’m biased as I am a sleep consultant now. If you’re looking for support, it doesn’t have to be me (though of course, I would love if it was.)

There are tons of great consultants out there depending on what you’re looking for!

If you have any questions about what it would be like to work together, I have a blog on that too.

Or, if you’re so inclined, please feel free to reply to this email or book a free consultation 🙂

Rest well,

Carly

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